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The Top 7 Mistakes Men Make When Dating Women

Guys typically make a lot of mistakes when it comes to dating women. And when the women we’re interested in aren’t attracted to us, we get confused and often give up. It’s no wonder we end up believing that women are from another planet. There are plenty of single women out there to go on dates with, but unless we learn a bit about what makes women tick, we can end up making the same mistakes over and over again, wondering why there’s no attraction for her.

So here are the Top 7 mistakes that men make when dating women:

#1: Being Attached To Outcomes

Men make a huge mistake whenever we get attached to the outcome of any interaction with a woman. If you are meeting a woman and have an agenda of wanting her to like you, to give you her phone number, to go on a date with you, or to have sex with you; you’re just setting yourself up for failure. Start practicing conversations where you put your agenda aside and simply try to make her laugh and have fun. Forget about whether she’s going to end up liking you or having sex with you. Just take it off the agenda.

Go with the flow and be open to whatever happens, whether it’s a slap in the face for some teasing comment you make, or a hot steamy evening of great sex. Don’t be attached to the outcome either way. If she’s not interested, there are plenty of other fish in the sea. If she is interested, give her a bit of a challenge so that she doesn’t lose interest in you. It’s natural to want to be successful with women, but the attachment most guys have to the outcome is a real attraction-killer. Focus on enjoying your interaction with a woman and let go of your concern about how it’s all going to end up.

#2: Trying To Make A Woman Like You

Men who are perfectly attractive great catches often go into weird-mode when they’re around beautiful women. Little wonder hot women have so much trouble meeting decent guys. The reason for this is that we often start trying to kiss up to women we’re attracted to, they get bored and it does us no favors whatsoever.

The more we try to make anyone like us, the less attractive we are. If’ we’re worried what other people are thinking about us, we become self-conscious and anxious, and these are not attractive traits. Trying to impress a woman by either talking ourselves up or by being overly compliant typically backfires. The most attractive men are the ones who have a strong sense of who they are, and aren’t concerned about what other people think of them. We are at our most attractive when we’re being fun and playful, not when we’re constantly dropping references to what a great guy we are.

#3: Using Logic Instead Of Emotion

Women respond to emotion, not logic. It’s a result of the different way their brains are wired, and our different social conditioning. Most of us guys are uncomfortable with emotion and will steer away from any emotionally laden topic. This is a big mistake. Often we’re worried that we will offend a woman if we express our feelings about some controversial topic, or if we express some form of “negative” emotion toward her.

Most guys play too safe by avoiding emotional topics and don’t want to risk hurting a woman’s feelings. Ironically, emotions that we think are socially unacceptable can often create a great deal of emotional connection with a woman. Now I’m not saying you want to get emotionally unstable on a date; leave that for your therapy sessions. But drop your guardedness in talking about times that you were happy, sad, angry, joyous, frustrated, elated. Widen your emotional vocabulary and you’ll find single women are more engaged and attracted when talking to you.

#4: Boring Her Unintentionally

The sad truth is that many guys bore the pants off women. Or rather, bore them into keeping their pants on. Women are attracted to guys who are interesting, and a bit edgy. Common conversation-starting topics like the weather and your respective jobs are so common-place that you’ll lose a woman very quickly. There’s very little emotional involvement in them, and when there is, it’s likely to be negative. Once again this comes down to emotion instead of logic: you want to talk about topics that have some form of emotional involvement for her.

Music, dance, art, languages, movies and books are all rich sources of emotionally engaging material that women find interesting. I highly recommend developing a wide range of interests in the creative arts because this will enhance your ability to hold a stimulating conversation on topics that women find interesting. Learning to speak another language or play a musical instrument will instantly give you a wealth of emotionally interesting experiences to help you form engaging conversations with women, and have fun all at the same time. This makes a man very attractive.

#5: Getting Romantic And/Or Sexual Too Quickly

Women take longer to warm up sexually than men do, and take romance more seriously.. If you know how to hit the right buttons they can warm up much more quickly, but most men have no idea how to do this and end up trying to get physical too quickly. An expensive candle-lit dinner will sound fantastic to her if she’s already romantically attached to you, but if you’re just starting out she’s going to need some time to get to know you first. Trying to impress her by splashing the cash around is also likely to backfire, unless she’s just looking for a sugar-daddy.

There are plenty of free dating options that will give a woman time to get to know you and see your fun side in a less intense environment. Go for a bush walk or wander a local public art gallery together. Explore a quirky area near where you live with her, and finish up visiting an interesting cafe there. Guys who are really successful with women tend to know what they want to do, and invite women to come along with them for the ride. They’re willing to hang out as friends, which makes the woman comfortable, but they’re teasing and playful with the women which avoids them ending up in the dreaded “friend zone”.

#6: Putting Too Much Pressure On

Women are attracted to men who make them feel at ease. They have an instinctive desire to feel comfortable and protected. Because men get turned on so much more quickly than women, it’s easy to end up putting too much pressure on a woman. You won’t seduce a woman or make her interested in you by going at it full-tilt; you’ll just put her off. The way to create attraction with a woman is to take things easy, and be fun and playful. Move forward a bit, then back off a little; repeat as often as required. Women love to be teased by a guy, and it’s amazing how positively she will respond to you if you can have her saying “I can’t believe you just said that!”.

If you want to invite a woman you’re just getting to know around to your place for a fancy candle-lit dinner, rethink what you’re doing. Meet up with her in the afternoon and take her grocery shopping to buy the ingredients for a favorite meal instead. This may sound odd at first, but it totally works; everyone goes grocery shopping so doing it together makes her feel comfortable with you instantly. Then get her to help you cook it. You be the head chef, and she’s your assistant; women love a guy who’s in charge. You might think you’ll impress her by having your culinary work of art ready to hit the table as soon as she arrives in the evening, but in fact you’ll just be piling the pressure on and she’ll know that you want sex. She’ll want sex too if you make her feel comfortable first, and give her time to warm up to you.

#7: Not Knowing What To Say

A lot of guys worry that they won’t know what to say when talking to a woman, and it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. The antidote to this is to be prepared. You can do this in two ways: firstly, by having an interesting life, and secondly by studying some of the topics that women are interested in. This takes work, but is well worth it. Women are typically fascinated by spirituality, self-discovery, and relationships of all kinds. Read up on the latest celebrity romances. Check out your horoscope, whether you believe in that stuff or not. Study palm-reading or personality theories like Myers-Briggs. If you can tell a woman something interesting about herself that resonates with her, you have instant credibility and instant attraction. Know what’s going on in the art or literature worlds, and you’ll have a wealth of conversation topics so you’ll never be stuck for what to say. Ask for her opinion, and state your own without pandering to what she thinks. Women will respect you if you disagree with them rather than if you change your tune based on what they say.

Many guys lack basic conversation skills, and women typically can run rings around us in this area. Take an acting or drama class and learn to widen your conversational repertoire and your ability to interact with other people. Ultimately, when it comes to conversation topics, there is no substitute for being a well-rounded man with an interesting life. When a woman is consistently surprised as she uncovers more and more facets to your broad range of personal interests, she will become very attracted to you.

About the Author

Graham Stoney is a Dating Coach and Author of How to Become a Chick Magnet: A Step-by-Step Guide To Developing The Subconscious Mindset and Practical Skillset a Man Needs to Effortlessly Attract Women.

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